It’s no secret that planning a wedding can add a substantial amount of stress to an engaged couples life throughout the length of the process. With so many decisions to make, budgets to keep, lists to compile and plans to see through, it’s no wonder that most brides and grooms to-be feel overwhelmed. Bridal stress is unique. It can trigger a lot of emotional challenges as well as practical issues.
Here are a few tips of how best to handle the pressure and still enjoy the process of getting married…
1. Delegate – There is no shame in asking for some assistance, your wedding party, friends and family members can be a real source of support, help and expertise. Make a party out of a daunting chore, stir up a pitcher of sangrias, put on some fun music and invite over friends to help assemble your favors, address invitations or set up a seat chart. Confide in those you trust, go out for a coffee and vent about what’s on your mind. Especially if they’ve already been through the wedding process, they can offer advice and help you keep your perspective.
2. Think beyond the wedding – Focus on the love you have for your partner and why you’re doing all this in the first place. Build up your relationship by taking time out to do something you both enjoy that has nothing to do with the wedding. Try to be self-nurturing and plan a picnic, go for a hike, see a funny movie, go to a pottery class, get a couple’s massage, do anything that can take your mind off your “To Do” list!
3. Be proactive – Dedicate a evening a week or even a full Saturday to accomplishing as much as you can for the wedding. The satisfaction that comes from getting things done will give you peace of mind and allow you to relish your down-time even more. Some times procrastination can be a huge source of anxiety. So work together to get what you can done at regularly scheduled intervals and your mind can be more at ease with each task completed.
4. Don’t sweat the small stuff– Things will go awry, people will get miffed, plans will fall through… but the good news is, you’ll survive it. Nothing is perfect and nothing proves that point more than wedding planning. The key to keeping your sanity is to be realistic with your expectations. Remember what’s important, find a way to laugh at it if you can and just move forward to your big day.
5. Call in the professionals – If you find your energy level wanning, why not hire a wedding planner who can assist you in getting organized and keep you on schedule. Visit your local wedding show for tons of advice, tips, current trends and local bridal experts who can help you turn your wedding vision into reality. No matter what stage of the process you are in, a wedding show can offer much in the way of practical help and put your mind at ease.
6. Enjoy it – This is your wedding. You get to call the shots. Have fun with colours, be creative with decor, choose your favorite dessert to serve to guests. Relish in the aspects of the wedding that bring you joy. Try to minimize the stresses and accentuate the facets that offer fun and creative freedom. Take your planner to a park or sit on your back porch and just breathe. Be your own best advocate for reducing upset and making it easier on yourself. There is much excitement to be found in preparing for such a momentous day, so see it more as an opportunity than a duty.
No matter where your bridal stresses stem from, the good news is that they are essentially temporary. The wedding day will come and go, but the good thing is that there is a lot you can do to help yourself and your partner not only survive the process, but in turn find joy in it.
14th Annual Hamilton Halton Wedding Show
September 17th & 18th, 2011
8th Annual Niagara Autumn Wedding Show
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