Tips for Making Elderly Guests Feel at Ease at Your Wedding

16 Jul

While everyone knows that the wedding day is “All About the Bride” , much of the bride’s pleasure and happiness revolves around the assurance that all of her loved ones are enjoying the big day.  While most of the guests can and will go with the flow with minimal fuss, there will be certain people on the guest list that may need a few adjustments to ensure that they enjoy your wedding to the fullest.  One group of people may be elderly guests such as grandparents, great grandparents or older extend family and friends of your parents, who may need a little extra attention.  I have listed below some simple points to take into consideration while planning your wedding to avoid a mad rush during the ceremony or reception but still accommodate some of these needs. Once you see the smile on your guest’s faces, as they bask in being a part of the celebration and visiting with old friends and family members, you will see that these small adjustments are definitely worth it!

Choosing the Venue

-Make sure it is easily accessible for elderly people.  Depending on the needs, this may mean wheel chair accessibility, few to no stairs, easy access to the restrooms etc.

-Be sure to look down!  Most of the time we are so busy looking at the beauty of the décor when researching different venues, that we forget to check out the practical aspects such as the carpet and dance floor are in good shape with few to no grooves or snags that could easily  be tripped on.  If you are having a dance floor laid down in a tent or outside, be sure that all of the different floor pieces are locked together properly to ensure there are not cracks (this extra check will also benefit the women in high heels!).  If the event is outside, make sure there is a clear and stable path to and from the destination area.  A golf cart may come in handy for transporting elderly guests.

Planning the Menu

-While no one expects you to change your wedding menu to accommodate their food preferences, most banquet halls will happily accommodate food changes for elderly guests.  This could be as simple as not putting a sauce on the meat

Other Food Tips for Elderly Guests:

Provide Tea, Coffee and Warm Water with the meal: Many elderly people enjoy having a hot beverage with their meal as it aids in easier digestion

Timeline: Grandparents eating habits may be a bit slower than the usual pace of courses coming out.  Perhaps introduce grandparents and other elderly guests to a friendly server who will keep an eye out for when they are ready for the next course, so no one feels rushed. Check out for a listing of different local banquet halls

The Seating Plan

-Easy & Quick Access to the Bathroom!

-Make it easy for the person to visit amongst guests by placing them in a noticeable area, surrounded by friends and family.  No corners!

-Volume: During the reception, make sure elderly guests are not directly in front of the loud speakers, and at the church ensure they are close enough to the front to be able to hear.   Talk to the minister or priest to see if there is something that can be done to make sure a microphone or sound system is used.

Transportation: We all know weddings run late, and sometimes much too late for grandparents or other special elderly guests.  On order to ensure that they get home safely (and allow the rest of your guests to continue enjoying the party) arrange ahead of time for a limo,  town car or even a taxi to take some of your elderly guest’s home when they are ready.  That way you have to worry about their safety and they can enjoy the party without having to worry about driving after dark! Check out local limo companies such as, or for available rates

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Happy Planning!



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