Etiquette for your Bridal Party

10 Dec

One of the biggest issues that frequently pops up when figuring out the bridal party is how many people and whether or not to have an even amount of groomsmen and bridesmaids. Let’s solve the argument before it happens….YES! It is okay to have an odd number of groomsmen and bridesmaids! There are many ways to get through this you can double up your odd numbers, have someone walk solo or as I am sure we’ve all seen on you tube recently have your whole wedding party dance their way down the isle!  The most important thing to keep in mind is ensuring that your bridal party is comfortable and happy with your choice, and this doesn’t just apply to how they walk down the isle.
Each person in your bridal party has a role and assigned duties within your wedding planning process.
Maid of Honor: This is the most demanding position of the bridal party, you are the right hand woman and above all else the main support system for the bride. At times you are even the target.
Bridesmaids: The duties of the bridal party are usually dished out from the maid of honor. Usually these tasks will be light and not require too much of ones time, this of course is depending on the bride.
Best Man: The best man is the grooms deputy, his second in command. This is the man that takes the groom out for beers when the planning stage gets too overwhelming.
Groomsmen: Typically now the groomsmen main position in the bridal party is to plan an amazing stag party! They are there to escort the beautiful Bridesmaids throughout the day and above all else ensure that the groom gets to the altar in one piece.

There are a million different roles and tasks that for each member of the bridal party along with these come rules and regulations on how to behave before, during, and after the big day. One major thing that needs to be focused on is the rules that apply to the groom and his lovely bride. Make sure that above all else your bridal party and groomsmen have an enjoyable time, the last thing that you want to do is make your wedding feel like a reincarnated D-Day to your friends and family involved in the planning process. Your bridal party and groomsmen should feel honored and beyond happy to play such a huge part in your wedding, you don’t want to take this away by being a drill sergeant. There are so many different, beautiful ways to make the planning process of your big day special for your bridesmaids and groomsmen. Personalize their gifts, let the girls pick out their style of dress so they feel comfortable and sexy too! Let your groomsmen have fun and be guys during the pictures, this can make for great candid photos. Above all else just have fun with your bridesmaids and groomsmen so that hopefully when all is said and done your relationship with them is ten times better than it was before, not ten times worse!

One Response to “Etiquette for your Bridal Party”

  1. Stefanie March 11, 2010 at 4:33 pm #

    … you are right – there are so many different “rules and regulations” for what to do and what not to do at a wedding, it is crazy. One “etiquette” I researched about quite a bit is the question: who pays for all the expenses at the wedding? Formal weddings nowadays average almost $30,000 so there is definitely enough incentive for most couples to ask for the right
    wedding etiquette … who pays for what ? Until not too long ago, it was seldom a question for brides and rooms as to who will pick up the wedding expenses. At least for formal weddings, the traditional way has always been for the bride’s father, her family respectively, to pay for their daughter’s wedding. One major reason for this “traditional” rule was that couples used to get married at a comparatively early stage in their life, starting off their life together at a point where financial dependency to their parents was often the rule. This however changed over the past few decades. Nowadays, couples often not only get married at a later
    point in their life, but also at a point where they are financially secured enough to cover their own wedding expenses. Another reason why the traditional “wedding etiquette, who pays for what” changed – at least if we want to believe polls asking “newly-wed” couples – is that more and more couples nowadays want to have their own “say” in the wedding. From the guest-list to the menu, from the flower bouquets to the wedding cake … should the wedding have classical music, or the couple’s most favorite local band … should we really invite uncle xyz, who never agreed to our wedding to begin with ? I am trying to summarize useful information on this and related wedding topics on my webpage and one of the things that I noticed while researching and then putting all the information together, is that the topic of wedding etiquette is a truly wide minefield; the
    same holds true for the wedding shower – planning; here, too, there are so many things to keep an eye on In order to comply with today’s “correct” etiquette, one has to do some serious research – the perfect wedding etiquette is needed for questions like who pays for what at the wedding, or the etiquette for wedding / bridal showers, wedding invitations and wedding registries, and so on…

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